Parents
Your children are not your children. They are sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you. And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
- Kahlil Gibran
Letting Go Of Perfection
Just like a house on display misses out on the coziness of a home, kids do not want flawless parents. They want things like safety, connection, play - not perfection. I work with parents to examine the pressures of perfection - where they come from, how society, gender biases, and patriarchy incentivizes them, and most importantly, how to resist performing as a parent and allow yourself to surrender to the imperfect yet honest truth of being a parent.
Finding What Works For Your Family
Not someone else’s. So much of parenting these days involves new theories and strategies and hacks to optimize how to be with our kids. This may be informational but I don’t know if helpful when it comes to the uniqueness of your family system, a combination of people with different histories, genetics, and temperament. I work with parents to identify the one-of-a-kind story that lives within a family and am committed to helping parents find their own balance between emotional safety and growth.
Walking With You
In her book Operating Instructions: A Journal of My Son’s First Year (1993), Anne Lamott says “one of the worst things about being a parent, for me, is the self-discovery, the being face-to-face with one’s secret insanity and brokenness and rage”. As I see it, this may be one of the best yet most difficult parts about being a parent. I walk as a human right alongside parents to validate the challenges that come when our psychological material is revealed throughout parenthood. I also see myself as part of your team, establishing safety so as to delve into unconscious patterns that might be seeping into how we parent.
